
Through this self-reflection emerges the concept of prairie silence: a cultural edict that promotes and maintains Hoffert peacefully as a child but becomes a source of conflict for her as an adult. In this evocative memoir, Hoffert offers a deeply personal and poignant meditation on land and community, taking readers on a journey of self-acceptance and reconciliation. Prairie Silence is a highly realistic book, tracking Hoffert’s interactions with the places and people of her past. Her stories about returning home and exploring abandoned towns are woven into a coming-of-age tale about falling in love, making peace with faith, and belonging to a place where neighbors are as close as blood but are often unable to share their deepest truths. While home, working alongside her dad in the shop and listening to her mom warn, “Honey, you do not want to be a farmer,” Hoffert meets the people of the prairie. This loss prompts Hoffert to take a break from the city and spend a harvest season at her family’s farm. Meanwhile, as time passes, her hometown continues to lose more buildings to decay, growing to resemble the mouth of an old woman missing teeth. When the farmers ask if she’s found a “fella,” rather than explain that- actually-she dates women, she stops breathing and changes the subject.

The prairie is a hard place to stay-particularly if you are gay, and your home state is the last to know.įor Hoffert, returning home has not been easy. Like most rural kids, she followed the out-migration pattern to a better life.

A land where she imagines standing at the bottom of the ancient lake that preceded the prairie: crop rows become the patterned sand ripples of the lake floor trees are the large alien plants reaching for the light and the sky is the water’s vast surface, reflecting the sun. Melanie Hoffert longs for her North Dakota childhood home, with its grain trucks and empty main streets. A rural expatriate’s struggle to reconcile family, home, love, and faith with the silence of the prairie land and its people
